A Spark

Funny how life works.

JDrums ended up calling me on Friday but I didn’t answer because I was about to go out on my second date with J2. At least my gut feeling was right!

First thing first, I had such a great time with J2. I was in such a great mood that JDrums called me, it oddly carried over into my date with J2.

J2 decided to take me to an Irish pub and it was a cool atmosphere. I had a hard apple cider and we talked about all sorts of things. I can’t even remember, really. He keeps saying he wants to volunteer with troubled youth but “troubled youth” is such a broad statement. I feel like anyone who really wants to work with “troubled youth” would know how broad of a statement that is and would be more specific. He told me he volunteers with some organization but I wasn’t clear on exactly what he did. Not that he was lying, I just don’t remember.

Anyway, our interaction was a lot more comfortable this time around. After we ate Scotch Egg (which was delicious), we went to play pool. Usually I don’t even like pool that much because I don’t know what I’m doing at first, but I had a ridiculous amount of fun. 

Something happened and I just wanted to win, win, win. 

I didn’t, haha. I didn’t know it was possible to scratch so many times. But I loved it when I did score. Oh, how I loved it.

There’s chemistry with J2. I’m not sure if it’s “relationship chemistry,” but I know I have a good time with him, he’s a gentleman, and he genuinely wants to get to know me.

He kissed me at the end of the date. I really just wanted it to be a quick kiss, but he kind of made into something a lot longer. It wasn’t as bad as the first time, but we still weren’t as in sync as to what I’m used to. He just kisses kind of weird for me. And yes, once I think about how off it is with J2, I think about that other guy and get butterflies just by the thought. But I’m suppressing it. I just have to keep working at it forgetting him.

I’m rushing through this part of the story because I want to get to the part that’s most exciting to me: JDrums.

I was a mess during my last post. I think I had too much to drink and “that time of the month” is coming. Lord knows I be gettin’ crazy. I seriously can’t help myself. It seems to get worse with age.

But something told me, “Jasmine, calm down, he will call you. He is interested,” and he did! My instinct was right, thank god.

I didn’t answer at first, and I’m glad, because he made me wait for a week. It’s his turn to wait now. 

So I went through my date with J2…. and texted JDrums when I got in the car, haha. Oh dear. Yea, that’s what I did. I simply asked, “…Is this JDrums?” because who knows? It could’ve been the wrong number.

He gave me this weird ass reply back talking about, “Is this the world? What is the world? Who is this JDrums in this world that may or may not exist?”

I replied, “Lol so yes, it is. I’m driving and can’t text!”

He said, “Who is this?”

“………………….??” was my next reply. Because homie knows damn well who it is. He wants to play games and act like he didn’t have my number saved. Unless he’s getting all sorts of texts/calls from unknown numbers and can’t piece together the girl he called earlier is the same one texting him right now. But he knew.

He said, “K bye”

Then, “Who is this?”

Then, “Please :-)”

Yea, he clearly has no idea who’s texting him.

I said, “Hmm, you didn’t save my number? If this is you, you should know who this is”

He said, “It is not in this contact list. See now you have me feeling bad and by technical standards at this time, I don’t even know you! Lol”

He knew.

I said, “But you called me lol. You don’t know who you called earlier today?”

Then he said “You know what I did, and I didn’t sync my Facebook contacts yet, Jasmine. I’m sorry lol, that was fun but I don’t want you to think I’d forgotten about you :)”

So after that, we texted for about 30 minutes, talking about how I knew it was him the whole time, how we both were doing, and how cute my dog is, haha. Then I said I had to go because I was tired but asked him to call me the next day after 5 if he was free. He said he would, so we’ll see if he will. 

During the conversation, I also teased him about him waiting a week to call and he said he didn’t want to seem too “forthcoming,” haha. Yea, I figured he was biding his time. 

I’m just glad we’re developing a more personal contact, outside of Facebook, and I hope we graduate to speaking on the phone. I don’t want us to have a texting relationship, for reasons I’ve already explained in past posts. 

I can’t believe it’s been a year since I’ve seen him—and that time was so brief. Did I mention he has a young child? I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it. I’m more focused on getting to know him to see if I even like his personality. But there’s definitely a spark there. A real spark. A spark I think we both felt the day we first saw each other. I could be wrong. But I have this feeling. And I’m certainly not willing to take that spark or this feeling lightly. 

Sparks are hard to find, and I will do my best to explore it. That spark happened a year and a half ago and there’s a reason why it has carried over until now. It doesn’t mean that “he’s the one,” but it means something and I have to see what it is.

Oh, I have a date with N, finally. I'll be meeting him today at a coffee shop in an hour.